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By nlpcoach on Jun 4, 2015 in Blog |

Misconceptions about NLP Take an idea, any idea. Now using this idea, you can divide the world into those who believe in it and those who dismiss it. Religion, evolution, the string theory, genomics… the list of ideas that are debated endlessly is, well, endless, including misconceptions about NLP. If you consider NLP as an idea whose time has come, you can divide the world into practitioners of NLP – who have personally witnessed great positive changes in their lives due to NLP – and outsider-skeptics – who dismiss it using rudimentary theories.  Those who are exploring online NLP training in India, and to attend an NLP Practitioner program need to understand this.   There are proven strategies to debunk an idea – even the best of ideas. The debunker uses one or more of the following strategies: Accuse the science – label the idea unscientific Accuse the creators and practitioners of the idea as greedy, unscientific etc Accuse the followers of the idea – label them gullible Refute the benefits of the idea Refute the longevity of the benefits – in the case the above fails Those who attack NLP use every single strategy mentioned above. Here are the most popular myths about NLP. Misconceptions about NLP Demystified Only demotivated people need NLP This is like saying only blind people need eyes. Motivation is undoubtedly the fuel that takes us towards our goals and we cannot have enough of it. Just because NLP offers effective techniques to become and stay motivated doesn’t mean it does just that. NLP is also great in helping the newly motivated person to pursue meaningful goals. Because, once you put fuel in the tank, you must have someplace to go. NLP is a superficial framework This criticism is sponsored by those who label NLP a pseudoscience practiced by a cult. Not surprisingly, only casual researchers have this view. Anybody who has studied NLP and seen it in action will never express such a view. Perhaps this viewpoint comes from witnessing incredibly quick results to long-lasting problems. For instance, an expert NLP practitioner can help a person fearing snakes get rid of this fear in minutes. Minutes, not days. To the outsider, this might seem...

By nlpcoach on May 27, 2015 in Blog |

Many articles have been written about this topic, ‘The NLP Lie Detection Technique’, and many a times it has been explained in various NLP Blogs and Forums, that Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is more than techniques (which can fix issues instantly). It is an attitude and a framework for excellence – to excel in life, to make changes in one’s life, and in the life of others around people. There are many myths about NLP, that it can be used as a Lie Detection test (NLP Lie Detection Technique), or it can be used to seduce women, etc. This is primarily the reason that some people have a tendency to look at NLP as some mysterious set of techniques that can be used to manipulate people. In fact, the programs are marketed as ‘Learn how to manipulate people using NLP’ or ‘NLP Sales – Learn NLP Selling skills to manipulate people’ or ‘Get Winning Edge – How to manipulate people and succeed’. Disgusting! NLP Eye Accessing cues or NLP Eye Movement Patterns is being introduced in many NLP Workshops as an ‘Instant NLP Lie Detection’ technique. NLP Eye Movement has its applications in the identification of the Representational System of a person, which can be useful in calibration, Rapport Building, and understanding the experience of a person using the Modalities. But, to categorize this as an ‘NLP Lie Detection Technique’ is sad and is a big Myth, which is not an NLP Belief to have. The myth is based on the belief that, if you ask someone to think about something that they have to remember visually, they should: Look up to their left, as if they are remembering the event And if they look up to their right, then they are making up an image, and are lying This sounds interesting and works in some cases, but in certain cases depending on what the circumstances are a person will not demonstrate this pattern consistently, even though at some point the same person would have demonstrated it as per the classic nomenclature of ‘NLP Eye Accessing cues’, and the Eye Movements, based on questions related to Visual Remember, Visual Created, Auditory Remembered, Auditory Created, etc. This is also in...

By nlpcoach on May 3, 2015 in Blog |

How to Solve Life Problems with NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming Neuro linguistic programming or NLP is a framework that makes use of language and communication structures to influence the human brain, and enables people to make better choices, to succeed in life, to get better results faster. In the 1970s, Richard Bandler and John Grinder developed it. The purpose of NLP is to modify your neurological processes, language, and behavioral patterns. These changes enable a person to attain certain specific goals in life. NLP includes a set of techniques, which are so powerful that they modify your performance rapidly, repeatedly, and effectively. Moreover, an operational philosophy is also integrated for guiding the participant. Aim in life is of utmost importance In life, it is vital to have definite outcomes.  Generally, most people do not have proper outcomes in life, and they wander arbitrarily all through their lives. NLP accentuates the significance of living with determined aim, and a framework for how to solve life problems with NLP. To attain specific results, it is essential to work and converse in certain ways. The program includes an array of behavioral and linguistic patterns that have proved to be extremely effective. People are able to make changes in their confidence and performance by using simple NLP techniques. When you use any of these models, NLP emphasizes the importance of nonstop calibration with people you interact. It helps to assess, if the pattern you are using is working for you or not. If the pattern does not work, then you will need to vary your behavior till the desired outcomes are achieved. This difference in behavior is not arbitrary. It comprises of a systematic application of NLP  patterns. Another most important thing to remember here is to take a committed initiative, without which nothing will ever happen. In brief, NLP is about observing, thinking and taking action to attain your set goals in life. Development of NLP NLP study was conducted first at University of California. The main purpose of this program was to learn the various methods that psychotherapists use in achieving positive results. In the end, this study developed and changed into a complete framework, on its own. Significance of...

By nlpcoach on Mar 30, 2015 in Blog |

Persuasive language using NLP Persuasion is the subtle art of helping people make choices that are good for them and good for you. NLP is the most suitable tool for this endeavour, and if you want to get better at Persuasive language using NLP, then read further. Victor Lustig, one of the greatest conmen of modern times, sold the Eiffel Tower. Twice! India’s “Natwarlal” similarly sold the Taj Mahal thrice, the Red Fort twice and even managed to sell the Rashtrapathi Bhavan and the Indian Parliament. History is replete with stories of such smooth conmen who could sell ice to an Eskimo. Many modern day gurus and so-called trainers continue this grand tradition of selling inauthentic services and products. But these people aren’t great persuaders. They are great manipulators. They exhibit the willingness to gain at the expense of others. Persuaders, on the other hand, are always looking for a WIN-WIN scenario. They, too, are trying to make a sale and they too are trying to influence the mind of the receiver, but for a mutually beneficial outcome. Now let’s look at those who pulled off the greatest acts of persuasion in the history of humankind. With the Germans within sniffing distance of Great Britain, Winston Churchill (an otherwise unpleasant person) persuaded his countrymen that they had more than a fighting chance against the technologically superior armed forces of Germany. More recently, an African-American gentleman in his early forties convinced US citizens to elect him the 44th President. Barack Obama’s message of hope and his dignified 8 years in the White House show us what persuasion can achieve. Both Obama and the nation benefited from his stance. Persuasive language using NLP is used many times, it is just that at times people are not aware that it is called NLP.   Who amongst us wouldn’t want to have such incredible power at our fingertips? Wouldn’t we like to get people to see  the merit of our ideas and become a part of our bandwagon? As it turns out, persuasion is not rocket science. It is about understanding the human psyche, tapping into the language of our brain and transforming this language to alter our behaviour. Neuro Linguistic Programming or...

By nlpcoach on Feb 27, 2015 in Blog |

The word ‘Hypnosis’ will raise few eye brows, when talked about generally with people.  It has been depicted in TV shows, movies or in stage acts, as something where people lose control and are under the influence of the Hypnotist. This creates a perception about Hypnosis, that it is either evil or has to be used when a person is in Depression. “Do you think about – Pendulums, people sleeping on the floor, losing Control – when you hear or read about Hypnosis? Well, you may be surprised that Hypnosis has a lot of benefits, and you will be surprised to know that it is widely used in Leadership Development Programs and for Peak Performance Coaching, Sports Psychology, Business Coaching, Life Coaching, etc. Now you may be wondering what are the applications of Hypnosis in Coaching and Counseling. Hypnosis has been widely accepted as part of Therapy, however, it is not commonly promoted as a powerful tool for Executive Coaching, Life Coaching or Business Coaching. Hypnosis is an altered state of consciousness during which a person is relaxed, and open to suggestions.  The person experiences peace of mind, deep relaxation, and in the process is highly receptive to positive suggestions and creates a state during which it is possible to access areas of the mind to create impact that a person is looking for, change that they are looking for, results that they are looking for.  Remember hypnosis is a state of being in an altered state of heightened awareness, it is not sleep, or unconsciousness, but a state where the conscious mind is more focused, receptive to suggestions to change any belief, behavior or negative patterns. Hypnosis is not therapeutic in itself, it just creates a state in which a person (Coach, Counselor, Therapist) can deliver meaningful suggestions to the client so that they can get into good states, and are able to do effective Visualization, and reach faster towards their goals or get out of negative emotional states. It is during this state that a Coach can help client to help improve performance, self-confidence, remove negative feelings, self-doubts, and reduce stress and other hindrances to achieve goals or outcomes. Many people wonder whether everybody can be hypnotized....

By nlpcoach on Jan 2, 2015 in Blog |

NLP Well Defined Outcomes There is no set time to begin and set an outcome, however, there might be few who would be setting some goals/outcomes as part of their New Year resolution, some probably halfway through the year.  As the first half of the year 2021 has ended, and as we move into the second half, take a moment to take stock of things in your life. NLP well defined outcomes are going to come in handy in this. Answer the following questions: Where are you now? and where do you want to be? What drives you? What is your dream day, week, month, year, life? Outcomes/Goals play an important role in who you are going to be in the near future. If you create your Outcomes/Goals based on the well-formed outcome (Also known as Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP well defined outcomes) criteria, there is more probability for you to achieve them.  This NLP well defined outcomes are what makes an online NLP Coach certification program, as this is the starting point of getting started.  The NLP well defined outcomes criteria is as follows:  1) State the goal in positive. Describe your Outcome in Positive. It has to be towards what you want rather than what you don’t want. Example. I want to lose 30 kgs in a year. This is an outcome which is ‘Away from’ or stated in negative. The same outcome can be stated as, ‘I want to get fit in a year’s time, where I see myself as size X, able to run 5 kms under 30 minutes’ As a coach always make sure that you are aware that the goal is stated in positive.  Questions to ask your client during a coaching conversation. a)      What do you want? b)      What would you rather have? (If the person has stated the outcome in negative term) Note:  The outcome needs to be crystal clear.  ‘I want to get fit’ is a vague outcome, even though stated in positive.  I want to see myself between weight X, and Y in next six months is specific and stated in positive. .    2) Specify the goal in a way that you find compelling. Is the goal compelling? Does...